Uncomfortable with Success?

We heard a lot about “Fear of Failure”.

But, on the other side of the coin, there are also people who are uncomfortable with the prospect of success, AKA “Fear of Success”

But – wouldn’t everyone want to be more successful, right?

Well – It’s hard to believe. but it’s true.

While failure might not be ideal, but at least it’s “status-quo”, and it’s comfortable compare to the possibility of something more.

It feels counterintuitive that anyone would fear success.

However, this is one of the primary reasons many people aren’t more successful.

Most of us may not even be aware that the thought of success might makes us uncomfortable.

This hidden “fear of success” can be the ultimate form of self-sabotage.




Success (most of the time) is more complex than failure

Sometimes it seem easier to deal with our life as it is than to become “successful”.

The more successful we become, the more visible we become, the more we’re exposed to criticism.

Success means more responsibility – more responsibility means we may have to live with more pressure.

If we believe success brings more responsibility and pressure, our subconscious will derail our efforts that could take us to the next level in life.

The fear of success can manifest itself in different ways.

Procrastination, self-sabotage, inability to concentrate, and suddenly feel tired on important tasks even though you know how important those tasks are.

All this are signs of discomfort with success.

Underestimating how much your negative impressions of success can sabotage your future.




Success requires change

But that doesn’t means we have to become a totally different person entirely.

If we want to lose weight successfully, we first must change our eating habits, and exercise more.

Yes – there are changes to be made.

But, we are fundamentally still the same person.

If anything, we’ll become an enhanced version of ourselves.

Therefore, it’s important to have a vision of success that appeals to us.

Success won’t happen if our vision of success is unappealing.




It’s about the process, not the destination

Success can seem like a lot of work

If we view the work as misery, no success will be attractive enough to motivate us.

We’ll have to find a way to enjoy the process of becoming successful.

Choose to value what we’ll learn, and the people we meet along the path to success.

Sometimes, we need to go on an adventure in order to find the right path that we would enjoy.